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WHAT DO YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR?

Many of us are familiar with the ‘snow-white’ tale. in the story ‘an Evil Queen’ uses  ‘a Magic Mirror’  in order to find out who is the “fairest in the land”, each time the Evil Queen; who is Snow White’s stepmother, asks this question the mirror states “My Queen, you are the fairest in the land.” up until when the mirror states that Snow White is in fact more fair. This reply infuriates the Queen who hatches a plan to kill Snow White so that she can stay as the fairest in the land. The ‘Snow White’ story has a happy ending when after the queen tries to kill her, she’s rescued and finally marries the prince and lives happily thereafter.

But the mirror and the evil queen is an interesting side of the story worth exploring. First of all, we all understand that physically, mirrors reflect our images back to us. Mirrors are also used in technology and they are an important part of scientific instruments such as telescopes, industrial machinery, cameras and lasers.

The use of mirrors can be traced back to ancient civilizations; ancient Egyptians, Romans and Greeks were quite fond of mirrors and often manufactured mirrors from polished copper and bronze.

Renowned author ,Robert Kiyosaki writes about a story he learnt from his parents when he was a child, he was told that the Japanese were aware of three powers: the sword, the jewel and the mirror. The sword symbolizes the power of weapons. Great nations throughout history have invested in their military to gain an advantage over other nations. The jewel represents the power of money. While, the mirror symbolizes the power of self-knowledge. And, according to Japanese legend, self-knowledge is the most treasured of all three powers because it guides how all other powers are used, whether they are used for good or for ill. In the African culture, when stories are told of what transpires at a healing session at local medicine men hut’s many such stories mention use of a mirror.

Mirror is just a reflection and what you see inside the mirror has nothing to do with the mirror but it’s all to do with the object the mirror is reflecting. The reason why people get into trouble is that they do not perceive things accurately. It has been said that you don’t perceive things as they are, you perceive things as you are.

Without a correct self- perception, what people do is they stand In front of the mirror and instead of looking at their image and appreciating who they are they instead compare themselves with others to find out  their self-worth. And this is why the evil queen was always asking the mirror “who is the fairest of us all”, the better question that wouldn’t have put her in trouble would have been “am I looking my best today”.

The image you have of your self is built over a long period and psychologist believe that it’s built before you were seven-years old and you were not completely in charge of what you were learning from your family and environment. So then to build a proper self-perception it’s important to practice deliberate self-improvement.

Self-improvement

According to author James Clear of the book, Atomic Habits, “Self-improvement is the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts. It’s the quest to make ourselves better in any and every facet of life”.

We all have been thought and we understand the importance of education, we know quotes like: 

“Education is the passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today” – Malcolm X.

The more that you read, the more things you will know, the more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”– Dr. Seuss

And many more quotes by great minds about the importance of education. However, after many people graduate from formal institutions of learning they stop actively seeking to learn, develop, and grow different areas of their lives and interests. But to succeed in any endeavor be it: parenting, relationship, spiritual matters, playing golf, managing people, you need continuous self- improvement through learning.

Common self- improvement ideas include:.

Avoid self -sabotaging such as: self-doubt, fear, anger.

Practice gratitude.

Listen to your guts.

Live in the present

Cultivate a reading culture.

Incorporate exercise in your daily activities.

Build a positive mindset.

By Winnie

Winnie Seurei-Tanui is a mother, an author & a Public Speaker passionate about Personal Development. She is on a mission of sharing knowledge and ideas that help people live and work boldly.