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The Dreaded “F” word.How to Overcome Fear of Failure.

Failure is defined as the lack of success in doing or achieving something, especially about a particular activity. But this definition will not be complete without looking at what success is. Success, on the other hand, is defined as the accomplishment of a goal or a purpose and the other component of success and failure is a goal or aim.

Most people are afraid to undertake a trial because they are afraid of error, yet Trial and Error is the chief means of solving life’s problems nonetheless many people hold to the thinking that error is wrong and shameful because they have been held captive by the “failure avoidance mindset”

The ‘failure avoidance’ mindset is avoiding risk at all cost in order to avoid failure rather than seeking the very best of things in life. Interestingly, successful and confident people thrive in failure. This doesn’t mean they enjoy failing, but even when they fail, they will still go ahead and pursue their goals anyway. For them, failure is a temporary setback, not an existential crisis.

“The Failure Avoidance Mindset

Fear of failure is the deep worry you experience when you imagine all the horrible things that could happen if you failed to achieve a set goal. Ironically, this intense worry increases the odds of you holding back or giving up. Ultimately, being successful relies to a large extent on your ability to control fear.

How to Overcome Fear

Simulate the Worst- Case Scenario

Think of the situation in which you are afraid to fail and imagine yourself to have reached rock bottom of the situation, and then start planning how you will overcome whatever obstacles that may be standing in your way.

Overcome Fear with Gratitude

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtue but the parent of all of the others”-Cicero

Gratitude is the cure for two things that stop us from succeeding; anger and fear. Fear is naturally focused on all the things that could go wrong, while gratitude is focused on the things that have gone right or what has progressed well,

Overcome Fear with Love

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made in love”-1 John 4:18 (NIV)

“There are two basic motivating forces, fear and love. When we are afraid, we tend to pull back from life but when we are in love, we are open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance”-John Lennon

By Winnie

Winnie Seurei-Tanui is a mother, an author & a Public Speaker passionate about Personal Development. She is on a mission of sharing knowledge and ideas that help people live and work boldly.